Why giving up partying doesn’t make me a terrible friend

Everyone’s seen the meme on Facebook, your friends all have different schedules so basically it’s impossible to meet up with them. You grow further apart with them, you find it said because through high school you were all inseparable. Life moves on, people get older and suddenly different things are a priority.

The same goes for everyone else though, this isn’t just me. It’s not me being horrible and saying “look, mate, we’ve had a good run but I don’t want to go clubbing with you while you make out with some guy that’s probably never going to call you again”. It’s more a … people can be at different stages in their lives and just because I’m not wanting to party doesn’t make me a terrible friend. I’m there when I’m needed and I can be there for some casual drinks but hit 10pm and I want to be in bed.

The problem with being in your twenties is finding people at different stages is really common, and not at all a problem. You have friends who are living abroad travelling the world and asking you why you aren’t doing the same, I have friends that still want to party but it’s not my thing. The change in the situation is that I spend 40 hours a week working and if I don’t want to go to a club in my spare time and wish that I was back home in bed then I am not going to do it. It’s a different thing doing things that you don’t want to do when you have plenty of time to waste … however, in hindsight, I should have actually gone to those economics lectures, they may have turned out to be pretty important. Yet when I’m working and I have come home, the first thing that I want to do is watch some TV, eat some good food and sleep because the next morning I have to get up at 5:15 and do the same thing over and over each day.

So yes this very well might make me boring, but definitely not a bad friend.


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